Finished some little knitted Kanoko Pants for the newborn son of a friend.
Her story is not mine to tell, but I have watched it unfold for some while now and from time to time I have contemplated how she can do it. How she can be strong enough to let go of the things she cannot change. To make her peace with them.
Letting go is not one of my strong points. I waste much energy feeling angry and frustrated at situations I can do nothing to alter. So I keep my hands busy and hope that tomorrow, or the next day, I will wake up and find my anger has gone. Sometimes I think if I had less free time, there would be less space for brooding and I would be able to just let things go and move on. It's such a waste.
I have always been the same way with letting go. It's so hard.
I am sorry your friend is going through a rough time, surely knowing that she is surrounded by loving friends like you is a comfort.
Posted by: jess | 16 October 2012 at 15:33
My recent experience has been that blogging about it can be enormously beneficial -although it depends on the nature of the anger I suppose.
Posted by: Sue | 16 October 2012 at 16:02
You are recognising anger in yourself: many people don't. I love the colour and seaside taping.
He'll look gorgeous xo
Posted by: Claire | 16 October 2012 at 16:33
It took the break up of my first marriage to make me realise the only person who was hurt by my anger was me. It's not an easy lesson to learn. The little pants are lovely and your friend is fortunate to have a friend like you.
Posted by: Gina | 16 October 2012 at 18:43
You are angry because you care and clearly you don't want to care less. The secret is to channel your anger effectively so that you use the energy positively and not absorb it so that it hurts you or the people around you.
Posted by: Alice C | 16 October 2012 at 20:01
A good friend of mine says her son is a dweller. It is a great phrase for not such a good trait.
Sadly, I think I am a dweller too.
Those knitted strides are delightful. I am, as ever, in awe of all you woolly folk out there.
Ax
Posted by: Magic Bean | 16 October 2012 at 22:32
I'm sorry you're in pain, and I'm sorry your friend is in pain. I find myself frequently angry these days, generally when I feel powerless and frustrated. It's exhausting. I feel for you.
Posted by: Dottycookie | 17 October 2012 at 06:54
Letting go is the hardest.
And those pants are the cutest.
Posted by: Megan | 17 October 2012 at 07:24
And I have been thinking something similar about free time. For sure I have too much of it, and I do often brood. It feels like my brain starts to consume itself.
Posted by: Megan | 17 October 2012 at 07:26
You sound just like me. I find letting go tough especially with things that I have no control over or things where I don't have enough information. I find sewing helps...until my mind wanders :o) ((hugs))
Posted by: Sew Create It - Jane | 17 October 2012 at 20:00
Because all we can do is live in the present...I came across this blog post today, and I don't mean to be presumptuous, but you can take it as you will...it is lovely, and hopeful.
http://figjamandlimecordial.com/2012/10/18/small-man/
Posted by: Laura | 18 October 2012 at 02:03
My brain won't compute the things I want to say to you. Forgive me. Tx
Posted by: Dragonfly | 19 October 2012 at 11:21
My husband still gets riled up over things that happened years ago, meanwhile I have a tendency to forget hurt rather too quickly. I'm probably the happier of the two, but I wonder if I might sometimes be treated a little better by others if there wasn't the knowledge that 'oh, she'll soon get over it'.
Those are some lovely little trousers - the ribbon is the perfect touch.
Posted by: UK lass in US | 20 October 2012 at 19:14
oh yes, letting go/go with the flow/panta rei and all that... I'm not very good at that either.
sigh.
Those little trousers on the other hand are totally adorable.
Posted by: monica | 20 October 2012 at 20:00
Those are so tiny and so cute omg!
<3 Melissa
wildflwrchild.blogspot.com
Posted by: Melissa | 23 October 2012 at 15:46
I think knitting such a lovely gift is a wonderful way to channel your frustration. take care. x
Posted by: driftwood | 24 October 2012 at 18:42
I find knitting is meditative, a perfect way to clear your mind if you let it empty of all but the rhythm of the stitch. So calming.
Those teeny trews are gorgeous!
Posted by: Annie @ knitsofacto | 24 October 2012 at 21:25
I waste a lot of time being angry and frustrated at nothing. So you're worthier than me at least.
Posted by: The Coffee Lady | 24 October 2012 at 22:10
How darn cute are those little pants!!!
Don't ask me about letting go. I wish I could, God how I wish.
Posted by: Paola | 26 October 2012 at 16:04
Those little pants are just cute as can be. Makes me want a baby just so that I can make them!
Posted by: Thimbleanna | 30 October 2012 at 01:59